Thank You Letter to Caregivers

To my mom, stepdad, and all the caregivers of people with disabilities, thank you for everything you do.

I’ve had lots of rough days with my health lately, and it’s got me thinking about my primary caregiver, my mom, and my stepdad, who also helps with some things, like making sure I have what I need and caring for me when my mom can’t, and how much I appreciate everything they do for me. They see me at my best, when I have the energy to move and do the things I want and need to do, and at my worst, when I’m in extreme pain, dealing with bad brain fog and memory loss, or so fatigued that I can barely move. They see my anxiety, depression, and so much more, and my mom knows how to calm or encourage me when nobody else does. They see more than pretty much anyone else in my life since I live with them, and I often think they know me better than I know myself.

This is a thank you to my mom, stepdad, and anyone else out there caring for a disabled or sick loved one. I probably speak for all of us with caregivers when I say that we appreciate you more than we can say. I try to tell you how much I appreciate and love you, but I don’t think the depth of what I feel comes across very well.

I’m so grateful when you do things like:

  • Helping to calm a bad twitching and jerking episode in my neck and head in the middle of the night
  • Setting up the shower chair and other things I need to take a shower because you know I barely have the energy to get in there and clean myself
  • Making me a meal whenever I don’t feel well, sometimes without me asking
  • Sitting with me and just being there when things are bad
  • Running me to and from the hospital or doctor’s office and coming to see me or bring me things I need or want during a hospital stay at all hours of the day or night
  • Getting me the few things that seem to help me feel better, like the one energy drink brand we’ve found that actually works on me and often helps me get past my fatigue for a little while
  • Or doing a million other things that may seem small to you

During my good days, I’m also grateful when you:

  • Help me celebrate the times when I feel good
  • Put up with my talkativeness when my energy comes back after a bad spell
  • Help me get to church or other activities when I feel up to it
  • Push me to try to make church or other activities when you think I can handle them but I’m just not sure

I know there are lots more things you do during my good days and bad that I’m grateful for, but listing them all is impossible. I love you and appreciate you so much, and I don’t know where I would be or what I would do without you. You’re there during my good and bad times, and that means a lot to me. Again, thank you for everything you do. I may not always thank you, but when I don’t or can’t, just remember how grateful I really am.

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Product Review: This pillow might make you more comfortable if you spend much time in bed.

Today I thought I would write a review of a product I recently bought from Amazon. Because of my fibromyalgia, recently diagnosed sleep apnea, and other chronic illnesses, I spend lots of time in bed but also have trouble sleeping and getting comfortable. If you’re in a similar situation, you may find this helpful.
I’ve had a memory foam pillow for a couple years, but it was hard and not in good shape. I got a hospital bed a couple months ago that adjusts. I can lift my head and feet up. I usually lift my feet all the way up, which helps with the frequent swelling I deal with, and elevate my head a little bit, which helps me breathe a little more easily. This position also seems to help with pain in my hips. At one time, I couldn’t sleep on my back like this, and I still sometimes have to curl up on my side, but ever since a few hospital stays where I was forced to sleep that way, I’ve gotten used to it. I sleep with one pillow under my head now, as two lifts my head into an uncomfortable position unless they’re really flat. I couldn’t find a comfortable pillow from what we already had, so I thought maybe it was time to buy a new one.
Buying a pillow online was surprisingly hard. Not being able to feel it or see the picture makes choosing the right one hard. First, if you’re looking for a pillow, I wouldn’t recommend any from the My Pillow brand. The ratings are bad, and I know someone who had ome and said it wasn’t comfortable at all. Also, if you want a good pillow, you’ll probably need to spend at least $80 on it. Some are closer to $150. I had no idea they could be so expensive,. This surprised both me and my mom.
The pillow I finally chose is the Snuggle-Pedic Supreme Plush Ultra-Luxury Hypoallergenic Bamboo Shredded Gel-Infused Memory Foam Pillow Combination with Adjustable Fit & Zipper Removable Kool-Flow Cooling Pillow Cover (Queen) from Amazon. Click here to see the Amazon page for it. I got it on June 7, so I’ve had it for a little over a month. I absolutely love this pillow! Since it’s hypoallergenic, I don’t have to worry about my sensitive skin getting irritated or my year-round allergies getting worse. The description of this pillow is below. I’ll talk more about it after the description.

  • Extra Plush Gel-Infused Shredded Style Combination Memory Foam Pillow That NEVER GOES FLAT! Our Kool-Flow Soft and Luxurious, Extra Breathable Micro-Vented Cover Made In The U.S.A. with 43% Viscose of Bamboo, 56.4 percent Polyester, .6 Percent Lycra KEEPS YOU COOL ALL NIGHT LONG! Fully Machine Washable.
  • MADE IN USA CERTIFIED Bed Manufacturer Using Eco-Friendly Biogreen & Certipur-US Certified Foam. NOTE: PLEASE CHECK “SOLD BY” SELLER NAME, ONLY SNUGGLE-PEDIC PRODUCTS SOLD BY RELIEF-MART, INC. ARE GUARANTEED GENUINE AND WILL BE BACKED BY OUR LEADING 20-YEAR WARRANTY, 120-NIGHT SLEEP TRIAL, AND FREE PERSONAL CUSTOMIZATION IF UNSATISFIED!
  • Zipper Removable Outer Cover To Allow For Easy Adjustment of Thickness and Comfort. Conforming Shape Orthopedically Supports the Neck For Side, Stomach, & Back Sleepers.
  • Hypoallergenic & Dust Mite Resistant. Rolled & Vacuum Sealed For Eco-Friendly Shipping. We use a combination of Biogreen and CertiPUR-US Certified foam tested and shown to be MADE WITHOUT ozone depleters, PBDE flame retardants, mercury, lead and other heavy metals, formaldehyde, without phthalates regulated by the Consumer Product Safety Commission and Low in VOC (Volatile Organic Compound) emissions for indoor air quality (less than 0.5 parts per million).
  • 120-Night, No Hassle REFUND GUARANTEE, FREE CUSTOMIZATIONS and FREE RETURN SHIPPING WHEN YOU CONTACT RELIEF-MART DIRECTLY. INDUSTRY LEADING 20-Year Warranty!

When you get the pillow, it comes with a bag of stuffing. You’ll need to put at least a little bit into the pillow, which opens with a zipper, because it comes rolled up, so there’s very little in it. I put all the stuffing in mine, making it nice and plump but not hard or too firm. The pillow has two zippers you’ll need to open to fill it with the stuffing. There’s an outer case and then a smaller inner one. This is the part that holds the stuffing. I wasn’t sure how much stuffing I wanted to fill mine with at first, so I opened it, put some inside, closed it, shook it to make sure it was free of lumps, and then felt the thickness of it and tested it by laying my head on it to see how it felt. I repeated this until I decided that I wanted to put all the stuffing in it. When you do this, you’ll want to make sure before you close the inner zipper that there is no stuffing near it, as this can get in the way and get caught in the zipper, making it hard to open and possibly breaking it if too much stuffing gets caught. Once this was done, I put the pillow into a pillowcase, and it was set up.
I absolutely love this pillow! It’s very soft and stays cool throughout the night, which is important when you’re heat-sensitive like me. It also never gets flat or lumpy, which is really nice. Because it’s made with shredded foam, it molds to your head when you lay down on it but goes back to normal after use. There’s also no chemical smell like you get with some foam pillows. If you’re looking for a good pillow, I highly recommend this one. You can get it from Amazon for $99.99. I’m not sure why, but the price has gone up since I bought it for $79.99, but in my opinion, it’s well worth the money. Again, you can check it out on its Amazon page. As a bonus, once you buy it, you may get a message from the seller, Relief-Mart, offering free customization and maybe a free organic cotton pillowcase. I almost bought one of their pillowcases for mine, but that would have cost another $30 or so, and I was already spending a lot on the pillow, so I was very pleasantly surprised when they offered to send me one for free.
I hope you find this post helpful, particularly if you deal with health problems like I do. I’m not making any money from this review or the links in the post. They’re just direct links to the Amazon page for the pillow, which I bought for the full price at the time of the purchase. If you have any questions about the pillow or anything I’ve shared, please feel free to contact me or the Amazon seller.

Just Got a New Diagnosis

Today I thought I would talk a little more about my life with multiple disabilities. I just got some news that I’ve been waiting for for a couple weeks and thought I would share it.

For several months, my doctors have been encouraging me to get tested for sleep apnea. This started for a couple reasons. First, I’m considered morbidly obese. I have lots of health problems that make losing weight really hard. Second, my tongue is too large for my mouth. This is something my family and I have known about since I was little. Doctors told my mom that my tongue was too big, and this is something I still struggle with. It’s hard to keep my tongue inside my mouth unless I concentrate on it, and I sometimes drool. I also bite my tongue occasionally since it overlaps my teeth, and my wisdom teeth don’t have enough room, so they regularly cut the sides of my tongue. When my sleep specialist looked in my mouth, she noticed how large my tongue is, and how much it gets in the way. She said she should have been able to see at least a small part of my airway, but she couldn’t. Finally, I’ve been dealing with severe fatigue and memory loss. Some of the fatigue can be explained by my fibromyalgia, but it’s worse than it should be, and that can’t explain the memory loss. When I talked to my primary care doctor and the sleep specialist he referred me to, I learned that the memory loss, constant unrefreshing sleep, fatigue, and other problems can be caused or made worse by sleep apnea. Fibromyalgia may also be linked to sleep apnea.

A couple weeks ago, I finally got the chance to get a sleep study done. They stuck lots of wires and electrodes all over me, but it was less uncomfortable than I expected, and I was able to sleep more easily than I thought I would. When my mom and stepdad picked me up, we were told that I should hear something within 7 to 10 days. This was on the morning of June 18, so I’ve been waiting to hear something for a while and was starting to wonder why it was taking so long since it’s been more than 10 days.

Yesterday, I checked my voicemail. I have to do this regularly because my phone doesn’t always ring when someone calls. I had a message from the sleep center, but it was too late to call them by the time I heard it. I called them back this morning. They had me on hold for a while, but someone who could tell me the results finally answered. I was told that I have moderate sleep apnea, and that at the study, I had had obstructions, or times when my airway was blocked, 18 times per hour, which sounds like a lot.

I’ll be getting an APAP machine soon. It’s similar to a CPAP machine, but wher the air pressure the CPAP machine uses constant air pressure to keep my airway open, an APAp machine adjusts the air pressure automatically throughout the night depending on how I’m breathing. The doctor is ordering the machine through a company that takes my insurance, Medicaid, and I should hear from them any time now. They’re going to bring out a machine and teach me how to use it and let me pick out the right mask type for me.

We’ve suspected that I had sleep apnea for a while now, so getting this diagnosis is kind of a relief. I’m so ready to get the machine and try it. I’m hoping it will help me sleep better and start feeling better. My doctor wants me to use the machine for 31 days and then follow up with her. It’s yet another diagnosis, but I’m okay with that since this is a step toward getting my health under control. I’ll probably do another post after I get the machine and try it out.

Do any of you, my readers, have sleep apnea? How has it effected you? Did getting it treated help you have a better quality of life? Leave your thoughts in the comments.

Welcome to My New Blog on Life with Multiple Disabilities

This blog is meant to go along with the groups for people with multiple disabilities linked on the Groups page. Use the pages to get information about me, the blog, or the groups. If you want to contact me, use the social links in the footer. On this blog, I’ll post news about the groups and the organization I hope to eventually form and any products or other resources I find that might be helpful if you live with multiple disabilities. I would also like to do guest posts where other people with multiple disabilities can share their experiences. If you want an online group on a platform where it doesn’t exist yet, want to offer help with the blog and/or groups, or want to create a guest post or share anything helpful, use the social links in the footer. I hope you find something helpful here.

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